To be fair, most young parents—those of the childrearing age—have not finished growing up themselves. Their own parents left gaps in their education. Nonetheless, any improvement they make can positively impact their children at any age, and even if they improve the most when their children are in their 20s (which often happens), children can then learn that growth is possible throughout one’s lifespan, and that people can always change, grow and improve.

This, in fact, is G‑d’s message to us. Even at 80 or 90 years old, we are expected to continue our process of personal evolution, doing teshuvah, repairing ourselves. No one should ever say, “This is the way I am; deal with it!” We are here to grow. And although we may think that we’re here to help our children grow, the truth is that they are here to help usgrow.